The Secure Bond
Your journey back to each other starts here
Create a Secure Bond. With yourself, your partner, and the life you’re building together.
A transformative coaching journey for couples and individuals ready to rebuild connection, communicate without fear, and feel deeply safe with each other again. My highlight specialty: the first ten years of family life, from pregnancy and new parenthood through the beautiful chaos of raising small children. And my door is open to every couple and every individual, at any stage. Read about my approach →
Supporting families through birth & postpartum since 2013 · CBT Certified · Relationship Coach
A free, no-pressure conversation to see if we are the right fit.Start here
Beginning is simple. Here's how.
No overwhelm, no pressure — just three gentle steps, at your pace.
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Book a free call
A warm, no-pressure 15-minute hello to see if we're the right fit.
Free · 15 min → - 2
Your Introduction Session
One deep first session, online, where we map your transformation together.
Go deeper · 75 min → - 3
Begin your journey
Continue as a team through The Transformation Package — 10 committed sessions.
The deep work →
Why this work
Sometimes the love is still there — but the connection feels harder.
Life changes. Roles change. Families grow. And two people who once felt close can start to feel like they’re living beside each other, instead of with each other.
Since 2013 I have been a birth & postpartum doula: more births than I can count, countless postpartum nights, families at their most raw and beautiful moments. And again and again I watched the rush of a growing family quietly turn two people in love into two tired, distant parents. So I trained as a CBT-certified relationship & life coach and created The Secure Bond: to protect the bond that holds a family together, before the distance wins.
A baby changes more than your schedule. It changes your identity, your communication, your relationship.
What makes this coaching different:
- Proven CBT toolsPractical, proven ways to shift the thought patterns underneath conflict.
- Warm relationship coachingStructured, judgement-free guidance built entirely around your story.
- Beside families since 2013Rare, firsthand experience with the emotional transition into parenthood.
- Online, worldwideSessions from the comfort of home, at times that work for you.
All of it in service of one goal: connection that lasts through every season of life. See the ways to work together →
Ways to work together
Two paths, one goal — feeling close again
Individual Coaching
For self-growth: understand yourself more deeply, heal old patterns, set boundaries, and grow — with warm, CBT-based guidance built entirely around you.
Couples & New Parents
For couples who love each other but feel disconnected — including new & expecting parents. We rebuild communication, safety, and closeness through The Transformation Package.
The Secure Bond Method
Five steps to a secure bond
- 1AwarenessSee your patterns & triggers
- 2SafetyBoth feel valued & heard
- 3CommunicationSpeak needs without blame
- 4ConnectionRebuild closeness
- 5PartnershipGrow through change
Free tools to begin
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My gifts to you — beautifully designed guides for your relationship and your self-work. The same tools we use in coaching, free to take home right now.
No cost, no catch — just a warm first step.When you’re ready
Your relationship is the foundation everything else is built on.
Whether you’re preparing for parenthood, navigating change, or longing to reconnect — it begins with one free, no-pressure conversation.
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Good to know
Questions, answered gently
What is CBT relationship coaching?
CBT (cognitive-behavioral) coaching helps you notice the heavy thoughts that keep you stuck and gently reframe them into grounded ones that help you grow — in your life and your relationships. Esti is CBT-certified, and the work is warm and practical, never clinical.
Do you offer CBT coaching for individuals, not just couples?
Yes. Esti offers one-on-one CBT life coaching for anyone who wants to understand themselves more deeply, quiet anxious self-talk, set boundaries, and grow — whether or not relationship work is part of your goal. Sessions are online, worldwide.
Do you help couples and new parents?
Yes! One of Esti's specialties is new and expecting parent couples whose bond quietly grew apart. After more than a decade as a birth and postpartum doula, she trained as a CBT relationship coach to help couples feel close again during this tender season.
How do coaching sessions work?
Sessions are one-on-one and online, from the comfort of your home, built entirely around your goals and pace. It starts with a free 15-minute call — no pressure, just a conversation.
How much does coaching cost?
The first 15-minute discovery call is always free, so we can meet with no pressure. On that call we get to know each other, see what fits you best — and I share the paths and their costs with complete transparency.
What if my partner won't come to coaching?
You can absolutely start alone — many of the deepest turnarounds begin that way. A relationship is a system: when one person changes their steps, the old dance can't continue. Very often the partner who "would never come" gets curious about what's making home warmer, and joins later.
Is it too late for us?
If you're asking the question, something in you is still fighting for this — and that is real material to work with. Distance that was built slowly can be unbuilt the same way. Repair is a skill, and skills can be learned at any stage.
Is it normal to feel like roommates?
So normal that it's one of the most common sentences I hear — especially from parents of young children. It isn't a sign the love is gone; it's a sign the connection needs tending. Couples move from managing a household back to choosing each other, every day.
Is coaching the same as therapy?
No — and both have their place. Therapy often looks back to heal what hurts. Coaching looks at where you are today and builds forward, with practical CBT tools you use the same week. If deeper clinical support is what you need, I will say so honestly and help you find it.
How long until we feel a change?
You leave the very first sessions with tools you can use that same evening, and most people feel the atmosphere at home begin to soften within the first few weeks. Lasting change is built step by step, at your pace — you set it, I walk beside you.
Do you coach in Hebrew?
Yes — sessions, guides, and this entire site are available in both English and Hebrew. You're welcome to work with me in whichever language your heart speaks. האתר בעברית ←
How do I book a free call?
Every "Book a free call" button on this site opens Esti's calendar, where you pick a time that suits you. Book your free 15-minute call →
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